Braces are not extremely painful, nor do braces or retainers make anyone ugly, but a child’s perception of the apparatuses can make them believe either or both of these things. The first discussion about braces sets the stage for those beliefs, which makes it the most important aspect of telling one’s child they need to see an Ottawa orthodontist.
For this reason it is important to take the process of telling the child seriously, and to prepare yourself to be positive, goal-driven, and supportive. Focus on braces as an accomplishment, as a cosmetic improvement that will improve self-image and social status. Your child may not understand any of the medical or social reasons, but with proper planning and positive association, your feelings alone will convince them that you are considering their well-being.
Practice with a peer
Sometimes parents have as much or more anxiety about orthodontic apparatuses than their children do. Whether due to different reasons (finances, bad memories) or the same, (guilt stemming from forcing their child to undergo a difficult experience) parents can help their children more if they, first, connect braces to the positive emotional palette. Things like self-confidence, achievement, and excitement are the most powerful motivational tools at a parent’s disposal, and all of these can be attached to braces.
Before meeting with a child, discuss the topic with a partner or peer. Practice talking through descriptions of braces and retainers and ending on a positive note, whether it be self-confidence, achievement, or curiosity and excitement. For instance, “the Doctor will glue little metal braces on your teeth, and string a wire between them. It’ll feel a little strange, but when they’re off, your teeth will be absolutely perfect. You will feel so good about yourself, you will never stop smiling.”
Tell Your Child
The environment where you will tell your child about braces is important. Make sure it is comforting with very few possible distractions (including other friends or family). Some parents have chosen to go out to a nice, quiet dinner at a favorite restaurant; others chose to walk around a frequented park.
When you talk about the possibility that your child may need braces, keep in mind that you are a source of information and emotions that the child will draw on. Answer any questions honestly, being sure to say when you do not know the answer. A good way to answer when you don’t know the information required is: “I don’t know that. We’ll need to ask the Doctor when we see him!”
Braces are normal
Getting braces is like buying a car. You never realize how many people have it until afterward. Focusing on the fact that your child is not alone nor abnormal will help them retain their self-respect.
By the end of the conversation, you want your child to be excited about braces but also know that it will be a difficult journey to the end. By offering love and support, as well as associating the Ottawa orthodontist with positive images and feelings, your child will trust that they will be safe at every step along the way, making the treatment process as painless as possible.
